Alcohol Intervention
Alcohol intervention is a process that helps an alcoholic recognize the extent
of their problem. Alcoholics usually does not know they are out of control.
They look at their alcohol-using peers and their own use appears normal in comparison.
They need objective feedback on their behavior. Through a non-judgmental, non-critical,
systematic process, the alcoholic is confronted with the impact of their alcoholism.
The goal of alcohol intervention is for them to accept the reality of their
alcoholism and to seek help. It was once thought that an alcoholic had to "hit
bottom" before help could be offered and accepted; that an alcoholic could
only get better if he was self-motivated to change. This has changed to the
view that a skilled professional counselor can motivate an alcoholic toward
recovery.
Alcohol interventions are difficult and delicate matters and it is important
that they be done properly. No alcohol intervention should be undertaken without
advice and counsel of a professional experienced in the alcohol intervention
process. Furthermore, since people embarking on a alcohol intervention often
feel ambivalent and apprehensive, it is important that they trust the interventionist.
Should you ever feel uneasy with your interventionist, that you are being asked
to do something you do not understand or agree with, you would be wise to stop
the process and go elsewhere.
Remember, alcohol intervention is the most loving, powerful, and successful
method yet for helping people accept help for their alcoholism.
Q) If an alcoholic is unwilling to seek help, is there any way to get him into
treatment?
A) This can be a challenging situation. An alcoholic cannot be forced to get
help except under certain circumstances, such as when a violent incident results
in police being called or following a medical emergency. This doesn't mean,
however, that you have to wait for a crisis to make an impact. Based on clinical
experience, many treatment specialists recommend the following steps to help
an alcoholic accept treatment:
STEPS OF AN ALCOHOL INTERVENTION
1. Stop all "rescue missions." Family members often try to protect
an alcoholic from the results of his behavior by making excuses to others about
his alcoholism and by getting him out of drug-related jams. It is important
to stop all such rescue attempts immediately, so that the alcoholic will fully
experience the harmful effects of his use-and thereby become more motivated
to stop.
2. Don't enable him. Sometimes family members feel sorry for the alcoholic
or tend to avoid the alcoholic, let him come and go as he pleases. This comes
across to the alcoholic as a reward-after all, all he wants is to be left alone.
Be careful not to reward by paying his bills, bailing him out of jail, letting
him stay for free, etc. This kind of reward creates out exchange and criminal
behavior.
3. Time your alcohol intervention. If possible, plan to talk with the alcoholic
when he is straight, when all of you are in a calm frame of mind and when you
can speak privately.
4. Be specific. Tell the family member that you are concerned about his alcoholism
and want to be supportive in getting help. Back up your concern with examples
of the ways in which his alcoholism has caused problems for you, including any
recent incidents.
5. State the consequences. Tell the family member that until he gets help,
you will carry out consequences-not to punish the alcoholic, but to protect
yourself from the harmful effects of the addiction. These may range from refusing
to be with the person when they are under the influence, to having them move
out of the house. Do NOT make any threats you are not prepared to carry out.
The basic intention is to make the alcoholic's life more uncomfortable if he
continues using alcohol than it would be for him to get help.
6. Find strength in numbers with the help of family members, relatives and
friends to confront the alcoholic as a group but choose one person to be the
initial spokesperson. It will be much more effective for the others to simply
be there nodding their heads, than it would be for everyone to talk at once
and "gang up on him." Remember the idea is to make it safe for him
to come clean and seek help.
7. Listen. If during your alcohol intervention the alcoholic begins asking
questions like; Where would I have to go? For how long? This is a sign that
he is reaching for help. Do not directly answer these questions. Instead have
him call in to talk to a professional. Support him. Don't wait. Once you've
gotten his agreement, get him admitted immediately. Therefore, you should have
a bag packed for him, any travel arrangements made and prior acceptance into
a program.